Tired of Being Single and Alone? Need some dating advice? Check the following scenario. Another weekend comes and goes and you spent it curled up in front of the television watching "You've Got Mail" for the 15th time. Sound all to familiar? Enough is enough! You need some dating advice to break out of the singles life. You are good looking, you have a job. You have lots to offer. So what is stopping you from asking that cute guy or gal to go to a show or out for coffee? Is it fear? Lack of self confidence? No more excuses. I know what you are thinking. Being a single man or a single woman, especially if you are over thirty five, isn't easy. A lot of our friends have partners and kids. The dating pool seems pretty dry. Just how do people manage to meet these days. Is it through an online dating site? Or is it a chance meeting or introduction? Probably a bit of both. I do feel that online dating sites have a lot to offer. We are certainly under less pressure. if you do not want to reply to someone, you don't. You can flirt more easily online as well. Nothing crazy! Just fun stuff. I do also like the idea of a random encounter, a chance meeting if you will. You lock eyes across a pile of cantaloups and honeydews and you just know. Sigh. I'm so romantic. Forgive me, I digress. Back to the task at hand. You have someone in mind. An acquaintance perhaps. Dating tip one is to think about what you want to say. Plan it out beforehand. Okay, okay, write some notes down if you must. Dating tip two is we must decide ahead of time where are you going to go for this little rendezvous? Just coffee and a chat? Or dinner and drinks. How about shoot some pool. Mini golf anyone? A used bookstore? Go for a drive? A walk on a beach or in a park and feed the ducks? Go to a playground and sit on the swings? The possibilities are endless. I am not against the tried and true scheme, uh, I mean plan, of going to a movie. If you are a single woman asking the guy you should go to a guy kind of movie. Most of us guys don't really want to see The Notebook, or that type of movie. Sorry to burst your bubble ladies. The reverse is true if you are a single man doing the asking. Suck it up men. Take one for the team. It is only for a few hours. Of course all of this is moot if you can't pick up the phone and dial. No one is going to do it for you. That approach may have worked in junior high but not anymore. Prior to the date clean up. This applies to both you and your place. You want to make a good impression all around. When on the date just relax and be yourself. Ask questions about the other person. Their family and friends, their career, hobbies or interests. Try to keep it light. Now remember, you have two ears and one mouth. This is so that you can listen twice as much as you talk. Keep your answers short. End with a question. How do you feel about that? That was an example of a question. Oh never mind! My last bit of dating advice is to be honest. You do not have to get into the sordid details of your controlling mother, or your sister who is a pot grower in Amsterdam(even if she is wildly successful) at this point. Just keep it light and real. I'll come up with some more dating advice for all you lonely singles in the coming weeks. I think it is time I go make a phonecall.
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