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Dealing With Regret “If only. Those must be the two saddest words in the world.” Is there anyone out there who has not had to deal with the emotional pain of regret. Perhaps those people do exist, but I am not one of them. Sometimes I spend way to much time reliving past mistakes, and in doing so I am also dealing with emotional pain that should really have been put to rest a long time ago. I am doing much better lately at living in the moment and just allowing myself to "be", if you know what I mean. But alas, my simple brain still wanders to the past and to mistakes that have been made. People do make mistakes. Serious mistakes. I know I have. But I have to keep reminding myself that I have a choice to let go of these feelings of regret and feelings of failure. What's done is done. We cannot go back and change things, so why do we torture ourselves by reliving the past. If only... Yes I know that some of these things are "bad", and that they involve other people who may be close to you, or who were close to you at one time. Perhaps you did not handle a personal relationship in a positive matter. Well, you made that choice and it is over. You can choose to let these things get you down and bring up the emotional pain that comes in dealing with regret. If you choose this path, you are doomed, you will be forever stuck in this place.
If I want to get more out of my life I must embrace all of the bad decisions and choices as being an important part of who I have become. Have I learned from past mistakes? Jesus, I hope so. I want to use them as fuel for the future. There is no going back. We can only move forwards in our lives. Dealing with regret does not have to be difficult. What's done is done. Make that your motto. “Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience.”
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