How to Face Your Fear.

What Is It That We Really Fear?

Remember when you were a little kid, and whenever you were afraid of anything you had a superhero to bail you out? Who can forget “There’s no need to fear, Underdog is here!” What about if you had a bad dream? All you had to do was run into your parents’ room, and they would make everything scary go away.

Remember how long the days used to be when you were a kid? Remember how long summer vacation lasted? Do you remember how slowly the school year went? First grade took forever. Highschool felt like an eternity. Things are relatively easy in elementary school. You go to school. You come home. Then you do crazy things with your friends.

I remember as a kid we would go sledding down this huge hill. So one day I went sledding with my friends at the town golf course. We got to the top of the hill, jumped on our plastic sleds, and then we all started down the hill.

Due to the icy conditions, we were all headed in different directions. I headed in the direction I was supposed to go because I weighed the most( I probably still do). My friend, Rod, meanwhile, was nowhere in sight. So I headed to the brook, where I found Rod about 12 feet from his sled laying facedown on the ice.

I thought I had killed my best friend . . . and boy was my his Mother, and mine, going to be mad at me for that! Forgetting to take out the garbage was one thing, but killing your friend on a February day can’t be good. I kept screaming his name “ROD! ROD!” Finally he lifted one side of his cheek off the ice. It was quite red. As I pulled him up, he looked at me with tears running down his cheeks and he said to me “Can we do that again?”

What happened to that fearless little kid in all of us?

Fear Is Really An Excuse

I really believe that the number one excuse behind which people hide is fear. What this is about is the excuses you make to stay hidden behind your fears. Time is ticking by. The days are shorter. The months are shorter. You don’t have long summer vacations anymore. We’re full of obligations. It seems like years go by in months and all we’re doing is getting older . . . but sometimes not getting wiser.,br>
Maybe your main fear is taking 100 percent responsibility for your life. As kids, we are fearless. As adults, we live behind our fears. The difference is that as adults, we have the means to work with people to help us eliminate our fears.

We spend money on clothes, expensive vacation and cars – all external things. So you can afford to go to the Bahamas for a week, but when you get there and see a woman (or man) to whom you’re attracted you are still the same fearful person you are at home.

Nothing will change unless you start changing things about yourself. Fear is the number one reason excuse why people don’t try something new.

So What's It Going To Be?

Think back in your life. What was your sledding moment as a kid? How did you feel being totally fearless?

Now think about your current social life and what you’re not accomplishing. Think about your fears and excuses. How would you rather be?

Would you rather be an adult having fun like a fearless kid, or would you rather hide behind your fears and not connect with the people you most desire. When was the last time you did something fearless without expecting a result?

The only thing preventing men and women from getting together are the fears that each of them have. It’s time you eliminate those fears and self-doubts, and live like the fearless five year-old who has gusto for life and embraces life as a new journey.

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