Getting Over Relationships
Help for Your Broken Heart

Getting over relationships. It does not matter if you are the dumper or the dumpee, breaking up is hard to do.

Even if you knew in your heart of hearts that ending the relationship was the right thing to do, it is still difficult. It is almost like a death. Especially if it was a long term partnership or marriage. There is loss.

You may feel like a failure. You have to remember that this event does not define you as a person. How you respond to events is what defines you.

There is major change to deal with. You will be emotional. It is okay.

So what can we do to ease the pain? There are of course various stages of grieving that we must allow ourselves to experience. The stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

How long a person stays in each stage while getting over relationships is a matter of personality and sometimes circumstance. We are all different.

From my own personal experience I know I spent a very long time in the bargaining and depression stages. Some would say too long, but I was the one going through it and I do believe that everything happens for a reason.

I experienced certain things and viewed my life in a certain way during those stages that did help to make me stronger in the long run. As I state on the home page, I almost didn't make it. But I did and I am a better person because of it.

I strongly advise that people spend a certain amount of time doing some personal self reflection. Now is a perfect opportunity to find out what your personal core values are. I do not recommend that you shut yourself off from society and sit in a room by yourself.

Getting over relationships does not mean that you should become a shut-in. On the contrary, you should be out amongst people and friends as much as you can. You may have to get out of your comfort zone to establish or re-establish friendships.

When we are in a relationship we tend to put less effort into our friendships. Now is the time to make some calls.

Now is also a perfect time to start or try something new that you have always wanted to do. In the extreme example you could go on a major road trip if your schedule permits it. Or you could sign up for those piano lessons you have always dreamed of. Just be doing something.

I found for myself it was beneficial to write my thoughts down. Anything and everything that I was feeling to help me get it out of my system.

I sometimes think that men always remember the good stuff that happened during the relationship and forget all the arguments and stuff that drove us crazy.

For women, I think they remember every little negative thing possible. This is just my own biased view of course. Any women that are reading this are probably thinking the exact opposite.

One of the things that really got me through my own break up was remembering that things could always be worse. I know that this is not a very nice thing to be thinking, but somewhere, right now, there is someone who is dealing with the death of a child or a terminal illness. Jesus.

Yes, breaking up is hard to do. But, all of a sudden it just doesn't seem so bad.

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