Pre Marriage Questions
Questions to Ask Before Marriage

You really need to ask some pre marriage questions. Questions you should ask before marriage. There are questions everyone should ask before marriage but so many couples are reluctant to do this.

Why?

I think it is because they are afraid of the answers.

So you think you have found "The One" and you have decided to get married.

But have you looked at any pre marriage questions? You know, the tough ones like, which way should the toilet paper roll go on?

In all seriousness, you and your partner owe it to yourselves to take a long hard look at some pre marriage questions to ask before getting married.

What makes a marriage fail or succeed?

I feel it is that we marry a partner that we are not compatible with. This may want to be one of the first questions before marriage.

• Are we compatible for marriage?

We meet someone, are infatuated for a while, and we settle into a long term partnership.

The next logical step is to get married, whether or not we are even compatible with this person.

We end up getting married because we feel it is what's expected of us.

I am just not sure about this. Maybe people are getting married for the wrong reasons.

Questions To Ask Before Marriage

Here are some pre marriage questions to ask before marriage:

• Why are we getting married?


• What do we as a couple want out of life?


• Do you think our relationship will change after we are married?


• What do you think we'll be doing in thirty or forty years?


• How often do you drink?


• Have you ever hit someone?


• Do you think it is important to be faithful to one another?


• Do you have a criminal record?


• What was your childhood like?


• Was your family an affectionate one?


• Do you think we will have problems with your family during the holidays?


• What values do you want to bring from your family into our marriage?


• What do you like and dislike about your family?


• What do you like and dislike about my family?


• What do you like and dislike about your parents' marriage?


• What do you like and dislike about my parents' marriage?


• How would you describe yourself?


• How do you think I see you?



Pre Marriage Questions



• Am I/are you a jealous person?


• Do I/you have trust issues or feel insecure?


• Do I handle compliments well?


• What is your love language?


• Do you think we listen to one another well?


• Do you think it is important to know one another's physical and mental health histories?


• Will you clean the toilet?


• How are we going to divide up the household chores?


• How do you want to spend our days off?


• What are your expectations about how we will spend our free time?


• Do you believe that we should be doing everything together?


• Can we each pursue our own interests?


• Do you need time alone?


• How would you feel if I want a night out with my friends now and then?


• How will we make sure we have quality time together?


• How much time will we spend with our in-laws?


• Can we talk about money?


• Are you a saver or spender when it comes to money?


• How much do we owe in debts and what are our assets?


• Do you want to have a budget?


• Where does our money go?


• Should we have a joint checking account or separate accounts or both?


• Who is going to be responsible for making sure that bills are paid on time?


• Do you consider going to the movies and having a vacation every year a necessity or a luxury?


• What are our financial goals?


• Do you have any outstanding fines or debts?


• What are our future plans for purchasing a home?


• Do we both know where our important financial documents are located?


• Do we want to have children?


• If we decide we do, how many children do you want to have?


• How long should we be married before having children?


• What kind of parent do you think you will be?


• What is your parenting philosophy?


• Will one of us stay home after we have children?


• What type of birth control should we use if we want to postpone or prevent parenthood?


• Do you have any children already that I don't know about?


• Does religion play an important part in your life?


• Do you think faith and spirituality are important in a marriage?


• What is your image of God?


• Can we talk about sex?


• Should we talk about sex?


• Are you comfortable discussing your sexual likes and dislikes?


• What are your expectations of our sexual relationship?


• How will we make decisions together?


• Are we both willing to face difficult areas or do we try to avoid conflict?


• Do you think we have problems/issues in our relationship that we need to deal with before our wedding?


• Do we handle conflict well?


• How are we different?


• Do you think our differences will create problems in our marriage?


• Do you expect or want me to change?


• Are you forgiving?


• Go to bed angry or talk it out if there is a disagreement?


• Are you tidy?


• Are you punctual?


• Are we both willing to work on our communication skills and to share intimately with each other?

Answering pre marriage questions will hopefully help you and your partner from experiencing any level of loneliness in marriage.

I see it in a lot of couples. They each do their own thing. They do not spend much time together and seem to have very little in common. Before you know it someone comes out with, "You've changed", or, "I don't know you anymore".

If you are talking to someone else more often about your relationship, than you talk to your spouse, it could be a sign of trouble.

Ask the tough pre marriage questions before marriage. You'll be glad you did.

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